{"id":6401,"date":"2019-05-27T20:08:27","date_gmt":"2019-05-28T00:08:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.ashleycaron.com\/personal-development\/?p=6401"},"modified":"2019-05-27T20:08:27","modified_gmt":"2019-05-28T00:08:27","slug":"how-to-tune-out-negativity","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ashleycaron.com\/personal-development\/how-to-tune-out-negativity\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Tune Out Negativity"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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\u201cI hope you get raped again.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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That was one of the messages I received after speaking publicly about being raped.<\/p>

A year before that message would’ve broken<\/b> me.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>

I would\u2019ve either been crying hysterically in tears<\/b> or arguing angrily<\/b> with someone who was determined to\u00a0 <\/span>hate<\/b> me.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>

But that day I just rolled my eyes<\/b> and reported it to the platform.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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It was so easy for me to do this largely because of a simple technique <\/b>I learned from Brene Brown\u2019s amazing book Daring Greatly.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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This technique is called a Squad Square.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>

And it\u2019s been life changing<\/b> for me.<\/p>

Literally. Life. Changing.<\/p>

I think it\u2019ll be helpful to you too.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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Because we all come into contact with people who are toxic, negative, and in my case, downright hostile.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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And if we were to let all those voices in we\u2019d probably be paralyzed by fear<\/b> and overwhelm. But if we blocked out all the voices in our world, we\u2019d cut ourselves off from genuine connection and helpful feedback.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>

What we need is a filter.\u00a0<\/p>

One we can use to decide whose opinion is allowed into our hearts and whose isn\u2019t. And that\u2019s exactly what creating a Squad Square does.<\/p>

Check out the video below to how to create your own Squad Square:\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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The Two Exceptions I Mentioned in the Video Are:<\/p>

  1. People who are thriving<\/b> in an area of life you\u2019d like to thrive in also- so these are people like mentors, inspirational role models, experts in their industry\u2026 basically someone who\u2019ve proven themselves<\/b> by going through a process that\u2019s in alignment with your values to get an outcome you desire.<\/li>
  2. Sometimes a person on your list might have feedback on a certain subject that you know is not in alignment <\/b>with your values. For example, my mom\u2019s on my list. But she has really traditional opinions on relationships and gender roles that I would honestly never even consider.<\/li><\/ol>

    So give yourself permission to be flexible.\u00a0<\/p>

    The point of this is to get clarity<\/b> on the people whose opinions matter, and more importantly, whose doesn\u2019t so that you can focus<\/b> on what truly matters<\/b> in life.<\/p>

    Be sure to let me know<\/b> if you try it!<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    #triggerwarning \u201cI hope you get raped again.\u201d\u00a0 That was one of the messages I received after speaking publicly about being raped. A year before that message would’ve broken me.\u00a0 I would\u2019ve either been crying hysterically in tears or arguing angrily with someone who was determined to\u00a0 hate me.\u00a0 But that day I just rolled my […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":6,"featured_media":6402,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[13],"tags":[37,38,39],"class_list":["post-6401","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-blog","tag-boundaries","tag-stay-positive","tag-tune-out-negativity"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ashleycaron.com\/personal-development\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6401","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ashleycaron.com\/personal-development\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ashleycaron.com\/personal-development\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ashleycaron.com\/personal-development\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/6"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ashleycaron.com\/personal-development\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6401"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/ashleycaron.com\/personal-development\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6401\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ashleycaron.com\/personal-development\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/6402"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ashleycaron.com\/personal-development\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6401"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ashleycaron.com\/personal-development\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6401"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ashleycaron.com\/personal-development\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6401"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}